For Some

Halei A. ----- 16

While for some kids coming out as being gay or lesbian to their parents is easy, for me it was much harder. I knew my parents would always accept me as their daughter, but it was the fear of hearing what they had to say. Before telling my parents, I had to actually find myself first. Finding myself took time; it was an actual thought process. I went through the process of thinking, Is this actually how I feel, or is it just a phase? I knew I felt this sort of attraction toward girls when I started developing a huge crush on my best friend.

As months went by, I soon developed the courage to tell my parents. Unfortunately, I didn’t choose the best way of telling them. I remember it was a Wednesday in mid-April, and I was sitting on the couch debating whether or not to tell my parents. My hands began to shake, and tears streamed down my face as I started a “group chat” via text with my mom and dad. I don’t exactly remember what I said, but it was somewhere along the words of “I like girls.”

As my phone began to ring, it was my mom. She simply said, “Halei, what’s going on?”

All I replied was, “I’m sorry.”

She replied, “We’ll talk when I get home.”

My dad just said, “It’s okay; I love you either way.”

When my mom came home, she looked at me for a while and said, “You know I love you, right?” then gave me a hug and kiss.